“Our job is not to sell people on loving us. It’s to be loved for simply existing as the spectacular human being we were born as, and to give that same kind of love back.” – Mark Groves
Every person experiences shame to some capacity. To identify if shame is causing disruptions in your life, you need to be able to differentiate between shame and guilt.
Guilt comes from the behavior of something you did (“I did something bad.”), whereas shame transforms the behavior into an identity and becomes who you are (“I am bad.”). Shame can cause you to believe that you are flawed and inadequate, and in essence, unlovable.
Shame can look like:
- Becoming defensive when receiving criticism
- Fear of failure and/or success
- Difficulty relaxing without feeling guilty
- Difficulty facing your mistakes
- Difficulty receiving compliments
- Experiencing embarrassment or humiliation by past memories
- “Shoulding” on oneself or others
- Perfectionism
- People pleasing
- Hiding things about yourself
Shame researcher, Brené Brown, found that many people are afraid to talk about shame and the less we talk about it, the more it controls us. We want to take back that control by giving you the tools to help confront shameful thoughts and actions so you can find confidence and empowerment to be your best self.
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We understand that taking the first step can be challenging, but you’re not alone.
Contact us today and let’s work together to improve your well-being.